How I became the golf anti-practice expert
When I think about it, it’s been an odd journey for me. I started out my adult life at 18 in the express transportation industry. I went 23 years there, 16 of them with Fedex, the world’s 2nd largest airline by fleet size. And now, I am now helping golfers, athletes and business people with peak performance. If you would have told me 10 years ago I would be where I am today, I would have said you’re crazy. Never in my wildest dreams did I envision where I’m at today and the satisfaction I get from doing the work I do. The freedom I have now is just priceless.
As you may know, my golf journey parallels all of that to the tee! As I grew my mind in business, I expanded my thinking in golf…and both improved drastically. I’ve had some major breakthroughs along the way, the majority of them have come in the last 6 years believe it or not. It’s been a wild ride and I wouldn’t trade what I’ve gone through for anything. The inner peace I’ve achieved and having gone through the junk to get here is priceless. I now help folks follow their own path and feel that is my mission to touch 100, 000 people in this way before I’m done here.
I don’t talk about my dark years much but it is important to set the stage, so here goes…
My 30’s were not a good time for me. I was doing a job I didn’t like. My marriage had huge problems. I had boxed myself into the transportation industry which is notorious for mediocre pay with long hours. My health was in shambles. I abused alcohol. I was stressed out to the max. I was sick at least 4-5 times a year including some really weird conditions like Shingles. Yuck. Twice, I went on anti-depressants during those dark years.
I remember my little boys at the time asking me what was wrong with me as I lay down on my back and stared at the ceiling for hours on a weekend when I should have been having fun with them. If you don’t know about clinical depression, what can happen is, everything that you would normally find fun and interesting becomes a chore and dreadful. Yep, even golf. During a period in my mid 30’s, I actually put the clubs away for about a year. I was SO frustrated with the game and my failure to be able to Break 80, my longstanding goal. If that wasn’t bad enough, I had no friends and my family lived far away. There’s more but I’ll spare you the details and they aren’t pretty.
Hard to even remember that time but I do know it happened. Much of that period is a blur to me now. It’s no wonder huh?
So what happened? What started the turnaround? I hit bottom…and had nowhere to go but up..or out.
Gratefully now though, I had a couple gifts given to me prior to that. The first major one was from the doctor who first diagnosed me with depression and put me on the pills. I thought, “No Way, these are for mentally ill people.” I gave in because I was getting sick so often and was really tired of that. 2 weeks later and a checkup, my doctor asked me how I was doing and I said: “Much better.” He said: “Great, nowwhat are you going to do to change your life!” I was flabbergasted. I was stuck in such a rut that I could not see how life could be any different. I had forgotten about all the fun I used to have when I was younger. I made a vow that I was going to do some changing allright…and I did. I started taking computer classes and researching new careers and began reading personal development and psychology books.
The second great gift that I was given and accepted was from a boss I had at Fedex. I was a brand new manager. I hadn’t yet gone through any training. We had a management meeting and my new boss gave me a slew of projects to complete and deadlines to get them done. The things he was talking about might as well have been Chinese since I had no idea what he was talking about. After the meeting and later that day, I went in to talk with him to get some guidance on how to do the things he wanted done. I remember distinctly how he responded to my request for help: “Figure it out.” I walked out of his office with my mouth hanging to my chest and the biggest sense of pressure I’ve ever felt. Somehow, I figured everything out. I always have since then. When I get stuck on something I just remind myself that I can “figure it out” and I do!!
What are the big gifts that you have received in your lifetime that can help you find freedom and abundance? Take a minute to reflect on that. How can you apply those gifts to every area of your life to create something awesome for yourself and your loved ones?
Flash forward to my last day at Fedex. I am under contract not to disclose why I left Fedex except I will say that I left voluntarily and my boss persuaded me to stay longer than I wanted to so that I could train my replacement. They did not want me to leave. Anyway, I WAS FREE!! And it felt great!! All of a sudden, I started breaking 80 more often.
I began to work on version 1 of Break 80 Without Practice and hired a coach to teach me how to promote it.We spent hours on the phone over time as he guided me to my first online presence and sales of the new product that first year. During that time, I also got divorced. I was the one who left. It was very difficult for me and my boys but I did what I could to spend more time and more quality time with them than I did when we were all together. That is something I am very proud of myself for. Once again, MORE FREEDOM!! Soon after that I got my handicap down to a 5. My golf game was leading my life down a really awesome path!
I began taking hypnosis and NLP trainings in order to further my mental game knowledge. I was fascinated and applied what I learned to everything I did online and off. The really amazing thing about that time period is, when you go through such trainings, you get to experience clearing your own personal stuff and go through your own transformation in the process. Thank you GOLF!! I broke par on a full-sized course! A 1 under 71!
I’ve often said and written that I think that Golf is like a religion. It’s led me to where I am today…very happy, satisfied, excited to be alive, passionate about many things, abundant in personal relationships. It’s a metaphor for so much of how we live, work and play. It is said that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they play golf and that just the first 4 holes of a round is all you need.
There’s so much more to tell and so I will just keep writing, giving speeches, and doing trainings for you. Yes, I know that you signed up for golf information. Believe me, the way you live, is the way you play.
My biggest secret to transformation and/or reinvention in golf, business and in life is….COACHING.
Today, I am very proud to say that my current coach is Brendon Burchard.
He is a trainer who teaches people how to take their story and expertise and turn it into an empire. He has taught me much over the last year and I am furiously implementing it all as fast as I can and in between my office clients.I just talked to him last week and this article is part of my latest strategies as you will see.
If you want to learn something about how to become a paid expert as I have, he’s given us, his coaching students, an hour and half free training on how to turn your knowledge into an empire using business models such as:
book author, speaker, consultant, internet marketer, coaching, getting sponsorships (what he’s really famous for). He’s partnered with some of the biggest players on the planet. Jack Canfield, John Gray, Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Paula Abdul, Frank Kern, Daniel Amen. He shared the stage last fall with the Dali Lama and Richard Branson.
Anyway, I think you will find something very valuable in the psychology of persuasion and strategies that you can use in your current business or if you want to start one for yourself and find the freedom I have. It’s an hour and half complementary training. It just might change your life or give you some freedom.
Go here to check it out:
If you want to go straight to the goods: https://burchardgroup.infusionsoft.com/go/EA_live/break80/
Lately, 2 things have been on my mind that are much bigger than anything I’ve gone through that help me get perspective. One of them is death and dying. My mother’s passing last year has given me new insight about the term “purpose” and what we are doing here. I am really becoming totally at peace with the idea of my mortality. Once again, this is giving me even more freedom! Freedom to be open, to share, to really live. To me, this is now going beyond being just a trite expression to “live every day like it could be your last.”
As with everything I teach, this stuff has to get into the cellular intelligence of your body. I feel that trite saying is now there for me. It’s a really good thing to be free of fear.
The next big idea that I keep running into head first is the fact that so many people just don’t believe that they can change. It’s very sad to me and I even get it in full force with clients who come to see me and are very motivated to change. They are paying me great money to help them change and yet, a great percentage of what we work on is getting them to really believe that what we are going to do will transform them into what they want…permanently.
I guess that if I hadn’t gone through my own major changes, I couldn’t very well convince others that they can change. As it is, I tell my clients to just “borrow” my confidence in their ability to get what they want.
I’m grateful for having been at the bottom of the barrel. I don’t ever want to go back there but I’m so happy I went through it.
You can change too…You don’t have to wait to get to the bottom like I did.
What do you want to change in addition to your golf game?
I’m here for you.
Greens and fairways,