Feeling Bad? Here’s an Instant Change Tool
I am making it my life’s work to help folks feel good.
I absolutely love it when a client or a friend tells me that they just “feel better” after talking to me. I live for that!! I can’t think of anything more satisfying (well, a hole-in-one and breaking 80 for the first time were close!).
Anyway, I have all this knowledge now on what makes us tick and how to get what we want in life…and still….occasionally, I find myself feeling down.
This happened to me a couple weeks ago. A business project went sour and a personal relationship was not going well at the same time. I called my best friend up. She helped me out tremendously. I tried to stay focused on my work but found it difficult throughout the day. My thoughts swirled. I kept talking myself out of it. I started losing my direction and objectivity about my situation. The feelings got worse throughout the day.
I knew I had to do something..”c’mon Craig, you’re an NLP Master, you have the tools” I told myself.
I called up 6 people one after another to help me get out of this funk I was in. Nobody was home. I left messages on 6 answering machines and nobody called me back. That was a message in itself I think as I look back.
Anyway, It was getting worse….I was spiralling more and more negatively…Time to do something now.
I remembered a learning I got from a movie called “The Secret” (I could write a book on that alone. Email me if you want to discuss or post a comment here)
I got out a piece of paper and began to hand write all the things that I am grateful for. Things like:
- I have 2 healthy, happy boys (ages 8 and 12)
- My health is excellent, almost perfect. And I am in awesome shape.
- I have a car that is paid off and runs well (98 Honda Accord)
- I have a fully furnished apartment and office for my hypnosis practice
- I can write and I have internet marketing skills
- I have friends and a wonderful supportive mother and family
- I have some exciting new developing relationships
- I have excellent presentation and public speaking skills
And a few more things like that.
Then, I began to write down nice things that I could remember other people saying to me in their exact words:
- “You have so much to give”
- “You have such a big heart”
- “…they are around you because they trust you”
- “You are a natural leader”
- “I just always feel better after talking to you”
And some other more personal stuff that hit me
I sat in my easy chair and just looked at the lists I had written. The negative feelings began to fade. I focused on the scenes the words represented and let my body change the chemistry and energy. It was working!
Now, I’m not going to say that I immediately jumped up and down for joy and went out and conquered the world right then and there. What happened though, was it got me back to neutral. I was back on “Even Keel” so that I could get busy living again.
I picked up a book I was in the middle of reading: “The Power of Intention” by Wayne Dyer. I could focus again!! That was major.
I woke up the next moring saying this over and over to myself “There is no failure, only feedback”
and a quote from one of the greatest basketball coaches of all time, John Wooden:
“We will always win…given enough time”
I’ve since typed up that handwritten page of what I am grateful for and added to it achievements I’ve accomplished in my life. I look at it often. It works, it shifts your energy. It connects you with the Power of Intention and what you really want.
Do this when you find yourself down.
I’m feeling fantastic!