“Many of life’s failures are because people did not realize how close they were to success, when they gave up.”
Golfers up here in the North are excited to begin a new season. They just watched a fantastic Masters tournament that fuels the passion for getting out there and smelling the grass, hearing the announcer call your group to the tee, the laughs of your buddies, the feel of a perfect shot coming off your driver, the joy of sinking that 20 footer for birdie!!
Everybody starts off with such high hopes for a fresh start and like when we follow our favorite professional sports we declare to ourselves…”THIS is the year when I break through to my personal best!”
And yes, that is all good…do that. Do it often! And…I want to do you one better to help you actually achieve that…
It’s been my experience that the biggest hindrance to keeping that momentum and continuing to improve is in how you handle your bad rounds and screwup holes.
Too many golfers take those deep inside them and it eats them up. It gets in the way of future progress. The chokes and misses become like a cancer that grows inside you throughout the season.
Here’s the real truth about improvement….it occurs in an irregular fashion. It’s never a straight line. You take 3 steps forward and then 2 backward. You should expect that. You should go into every game with a curiosity of HOW you are going to take those 3 steps forward when you are feeling most down or disappointed about a particular hole or a few bad rounds in a row.
Prepare yourself for this right now.
Tell yourself that you will never give up, never give in, that you are now on a never-ending continuous mission to improve yourself….AND YOU WILL!
This sounds sort of simplistic, I know. Sort of like something you would tell a 13 year old kid about his sports participation right? I get that.
But you have a 13-year-old kid inside of you as well. Because you once were one.
John Wooden, the famous basketball coach once said:
“Players with fight never lose a game, they just run out of time”
It’s the same thing with golf. You’ve got to look at your game with a longer-term or bigger perspective and never give up on that.
I don’t care if you play for the fun of it or competitively, it’s the sheer thrill of watching yourself improve your game that keeps you coming back…or at least the hope of that. Take advantage of that…it’s goood…very good!
I make mistakes in golf and in life. AND…I keep telling myself that I learn from everything and everything makes me better and I am constantly improving a little bit at a time.
Don’t try to force improvement either…just open yourself to it and do the actions that you believe are the keys to getting you there, whether it’s working out a swing flaw, refining your preshot routine like I teach, doing the guided visualizations, putting on your carpet at home, or whatever.
3 steps forward, 2 steps back will get you where you want to go. It’s so much more fun to play with the belief that you are always improving. And I know you love challenging yourself too, don’t you!
Greens and fairways,